Dear St John the Apostle Community,
Last night I spent the evening at St Clement’s Retreat at Galong with 12 other Principals. Every Principal is part of a small group that meets three times a year to reflect, pray and replenish. The program is called Siloam.
Siloam is barely 24 hours long but has become one of the most highly treasured times in every Principal’s year. We have a night of prayer and mass together, we eat together, we have a good night’s sleep and then we meet during the next day to reflect on our own leadership and on the role of a Catholic school.
What we treasure about Siloam the most is that we are together, connected, listening to and learning from each other. Being a Principal can be a very lonely job at times, despite being surrounded by many beautiful and capable people. At Siloam, it is this connection to others who know exactly what your job is like, who empathise and understand its various complexities and demands, that is the most nourishing.
Connection with others who understand and accept you is extraordinarily nourishing.
When my wife and I moved to Canberra from Adelaide in 2001 it was for her to enter into a new job. We had two children (3 and 1 and a half) at the time and it was my turn to be the at-home parent for the immediate future. We moved in the cold of June. We knew no one and my wife went to work almost immediately after we moved here. For the first few months I knew no one and the need to connect and find a place to belong became increasingly important. I started taking the children to the shopping centre almost every day just to feel present among a group of people. It was a very lonely time and I missed family and friends in Adelaide.
It was when I connected into a playgroup at Kippax Uniting Church and when we settled into the St John the Apostle Parish where we met other families who have since become our lifelong friends that we started to be nourished and grow as a family. What started as a ’12 month experiment’ turned into 18 years and two more children and a long and beautiful chapter in our family story.
- Who are you connected with?
- Who is in your network of support?
- Where do you go to for understanding, acceptance and help?
I know how parenting can be a lonely role at times, for many different reasons. Sometimes friends and family is enough and sometimes, as well-meaning as they are, they don’t understand what is happening for us. In my position, I also know of many different groups and services that can provide support and assistance, as well as understanding and acceptance to anyone in need. It just requires connection.
Over the coming weeks I will feature a variety of important services and groups that our families can connect with and be nourished by. Feel free to make your own connection or to recommend them to others who you know need their support and help.
Let’s help make sure everyone in our community is nourished through connection.
Enjoy your long weekend (I have a skip waiting for me).
Matthew Garton, Principal
It is a rare occasion that I get to visit other schools but recently I went to Mother Theresa in Harrison. In their front foyer that had a beautiful display of crucifix’s all different shapes and sizes. Each one carefully labelled.
When staff or families travel that bring back a crucifix for the school. I loved this idea so much that I asked Serae Love to bring one back from her recent trip to England. This is our first one!
I would love to start a collection of crosses that represent who we are as a school, our cultural heritage, our travel experiences but mostly as a reflection of the world wide faith we share with millions of others.
So the next time you are out and about and see a crucifix that represents you, your family or the place you are visiting please consider buying it for us to display in the foyer. Not merely as decoration but as a reminder of the ultimate sacrifice that Jesus made for us.
“The image of Jesus crucified reveals the mystery of the death of the Son of God as the supreme act of love, the source of life and salvation for humanity of all times. In his wounds we have been healed.” Pope Francis Mar 18, 2018
God bless you all,
Religious Education Coordinator
Freezing night in Canberra
Thursday 20 June 2019
“One night isn't a lot, but it can make a whole lot of difference”
our parishioner Ted Kell is participating in the SLEEPOUT this year.
To donate go to www.ceosleepout.org.au
and donate using his particular reference.
Marriage & Family Sunday Mass
Date: 2nd June
Venue: St Christopher’s Cathedral
The Mass will include a Renewal of Marriage Vows for all who wish to participate. No need to register. Just turn up and join in
Marriage as Mission Lunch, Expo and Forum
Time: 12:00pm – 1:00pm
Cost: $10 donation at the door
Guest speakers Joe & Louise Zavone plus representations from various groups, ministries and agencies involved in marriage formation and support.
Registrations essential http://bit.ly/marriage_mission2019
Enquiries ring Lara Kirk 0429 192 869 or firstname.lastname@example.org
Congratulations to the following students who received an award for the fortnightly Positive Behaviour Focus 'Transitions - Ready to learn' or another great achievement. The awards will be presented at the School Assembly (presented by Year 2) on Monday 3 June at 2:15pm.
|KM||Taylor M||Evelina N|
|KB||Penelope P||Alyssa S|
|1M||Awur A||Kelvin N|
|1B||Emilio V||Emma D|
|2M||Olivia T||Mason W|
|2B||Grace H||Joshua W|
|3M||Zara M||Emilio C|
|3B||Elizabeth D||Adelaide N|
|4M||Robert W||Harrison R|
|4B||Harrison H||Apajok G|
|5M||Natalia G||Thomas F|
|5B||Hannah S||Brianna R|
|6M||Bridget W||Cooper S|
|6B||Nicholas C||Alicia M|
|Performing Arts||Ekluvya G (1M)||Thomas G (5B)|
School fees are due Friday 31st May, unless paying by direct debit. If you are paying by direct debit, please ensure the amount you are paying by direct debit will cover your fees by the end of the school year (Friday 20 December). To ensure the cost will be covered, simply calculate the number of fortnights/months remaining to the end of the school year x your fortnightly/ monthly payment.
If you need to discuss your school fees, please contact our finance officer, Debbie Milne via email email@example.com or phone the school Ph: 6258 3592.
Giving kids scripts for social and school success
“You just can’t say that,” remarked my daughter.
Realising his mistake this young man said, “So what should say instead?”
“Tell me I look healthy.”
“Hey, you look really healthy!”
“That’s better,” remarked my daughter, who’s not backward in coming forwards.
This young man’s scripting was askew. He knew that a male complimenting a female on losing weight maybe no compliment at all, however he didn’t know what else to say. My daughter gave him a new script that he can use in similar situations in the future.
This scenario is relevant to parenting. Parents should always looking for opportunities to give their kids the social scripts to express themselves in different situations.
Social scripting wins the parenting trifecta. Giving kids the words to use helps them stay safe; become social and importantly, promotes their independence. Your job as a parent is to wean kids off you. Social scripting is a big part of this process.
So if keeping kids safe, while socialising and developing their independence is important then look for ways to give kids the right words to use. Here are some ideas to get you started.
1. Asking a teacher for help or assistance
Kids often coerces parents to do their bidding with teachers, coaches, siblings and other adults. It’s easy to pick up the phone and arrange to meet a teacher or go into your child’s room and ask for something on behalf of your child. Take a different approach. “Choose a time when your teacher is free, and then ask her if you can sit at the front of the classroom. You could say….”
2. Entering a game at school
Many kids struggle to enter into a game or activity at school, so they sit on the sidelines and miss out. Consider coaching a child about how he or she may approach a situation. Suggest that he or she looks for someone they know, and wait for a lull in the game before asking. Social scripting involves timing, not just the words to use.
3. Telling a sibling to stop annoying them
“Jessica, please stop flicking the ruler while I’m watching TV. I find it annoying.” This may work. If not, this child could try, “Jessica, could you flick your rule elsewhere.” It may work. It may not. But it’s infinitely better than yelling, “Jessica, DDDOOOONNNN’TTTT!!!!”
4. Saying No to a friend without losing face
Research shows that many teenagers struggle with peer pressure because they don’t know how to say NO in a way that maintains their status. One strategy is to use an excuse rather than say give an outright NO. “I don’t want to drink tonight because I’ve got football training in the morning.”
5. Expressing their emotions
Both genders can struggle to express their feelings, particularly if they haven’t been taught the words to use at home. Recently, I saw a mother prompt her three year old when he was clearly annoyed.
“Are you frustrated Maxie?”
“Yes, I fusttated!!”
“Would you like a hug?
You’re never too young or too old to be hugged. Just as you’re never too young or too old to receive a social script from a well-meaning parent or friend.